BEKAA VALLEY, Lebanon – They are two faces of what many here fear is a “lost generation” of Syrian refugees.
The tender, smooth face of Batoul, 14, was revealed when she adjusted a traditional headscarf, showing no physical wounds of the brutal war that began in her native Syria five years ago this month.
But as she wiped away a tear and explained the decision her parents made to offer her hand as a child bride at the age of 13, the wounds pushed to the surface: “I feel trapped now. I feel like I am in prison.”
Mohammed, 13, whose family also fled the war in neighboring Syria, tried his best to steel his face with confidence as he spoke of his days working in a metal shop, missing several years of schooling yet holding on to his dream to become a scientist. Still, the sorrow came through every word of a popular poem about the war, which he recited from memory:
“Syria, five years and more of a crazy and selfish and illogical war.
Five years in which souls, hearts and minds have been destroyed…”
These are two faces among 4.5 million refugees — about half of whom are children — who fled the war in Syria to neighboring countries and to Europe, spurring a refugee crisis which the United Nations High Commission for Refugees (UNHCR) has called the worst since World War II.
The conflict began on March 15, 2011 in the cities of Damascus and Aleppo, when a wave of pro-democracy demonstrations were brutally put down by Syria’s authoritarian ruler, President Bashar al-Assad. He ordered armed troops to move in on what had been nonviolent protests.
And through the five long years since, Assad’s regime has steadily stepped up indiscriminate attacks with tanks and air strikes against an armed opposition and the civilian population. An amalgam of armed groups fractured into militias and then splintered further into Islamic extremist insurgents like the self-proclaimed Islamic State, or ISIS.
Through the bloody years of Assad’s barrel bombs and the medieval barbarity of ISIS, an estimated 300,000 people have been killed and hundreds of thousands more wounded. In addition to the 4.5 million refugees, there are some 8 million internally displaced people in Syria. And none of them will be going home any time soon.
A tenuous “cessation of hostilities” agreement was put in place last month, and peace talks are getting underway again in Geneva this week. But few international observers believe the end of the war is in sight. The neighboring countries of Lebanon, Jordan and Turkey are now restricting the wave of refugees trying to cross over from Syria.
And the European Union, which accepted a wave of asylum seekers over the summer, is now grappling with a realization that the refugee crisis is untenable, and that they too have to secure their borders. Meanwhile, in the muddy warrens of the informal tented settlements where refugees are scratching out an existence in Lebanon, the UN food subsidy of $184 per month per family is not enough. Life is getting harder and harder, particularly for the children.
Syrian refugees, the majority of whom are relatively well educated and many of whom hail from a broad middle class that existed before the war, have seen their life savings disappear and their hopes fade. And amid this collapse of life as they knew it, children are often the most vulnerable.
Girls like Batoul are being married off as child brides because their parents can’t afford to keep them or because their families fear sexual assault and harassment which advocates and aid workers say is rampant in the chaos of the camps. Children of both sexes, they add, are also exploited physically and sexually.
Because men are not permitted to work in the host countries like Lebanon, children are often forced to work in agriculture or factories or peddling on the streets. Aid workers fear there is what they call a “lost generation” of Syrian children who have fallen far behind in schooling and who suffer greatly from collective trauma.
“That is ultimately the saddest,” said Maeve Murphy, head of UNICEF in Lebanon’s Bekaa Valley, where many of these refugees have settled to wait out the war. “You see young people whose dreams will never materialize unless they have some stability and unless they are able to access education.”
‘It was a terrible mistake. We have stolen her childhood.’
Batoul sat beside her mother and father, who could not hold back tears as they described their journey to flee the fighting that surrounded their home in Homs, Syria’s third largest city and a key battleground in the uprising against the regime. They recounted the troubles they’ve faced as refugees in Lebanon. Her father, Mohammad, 41, was a mason who made a decent living in Syria pouring foundations for new homes and buildings before the family fled Homs in 2012.
Now they live in a corrugated tin hut with UNHCR canvas for a roof. Over the last four years, Batoul’s father said all of their savings disappeared. The economic desperation that set in, along with the parents’ deep concerns for their daughter’s protection, forced Mohammad to allow his beloved daughter to be taken as a child bride by her cousin. Both he and Batoul’s mother now regret that decision.
“If God would allow us to undo what we have done, we would do it,” said Batoul’s mother, Amina, 33, through tears which she dabbed with a traditional headscarf. “We put a burden on her that she can’t handle. It was a terrible mistake. We have stolen her childhood.”
Aid workers and advocates say child marriages are happening at an alarming rate for Syrian girls as young as 12 years old. But because these marriages fall under Islamic religious laws, which by some Koranic interpretations permit brides as young as 9, the government in Lebanon looks the other way. At the same time, women’s rights organizations have railed against the practice as a human rights violation and as a health risk. The second highest cause of death for girls 15 to 19 is complications during childbirth, according to the World Health Organization.
Amina is despondent over her daughter’s fate, and is worried about her psychological and physical wellbeing. Recently, Amina has begun working with an advocacy center for women and girls that tries to help refugee families avoid the mistake she made. She’s tried to instill this spirit of advocacy for the rights of women in Batoul, as well, who says she wants to be a lawyer.
“I want to help other women and be sure they know their rights,” said Batoul.
Patricia Mouamar, communications director for World Vision in Lebanon, explained that in her experience the number of child brides is on the rise: “There are no official statistics when it comes to early marriage. But I have been seeing refugees for the last five years. And every time I come I meet a family that has to make this difficult decision.”
Amina said she feels she has lost her daughter, adding, “I don’t think about the future, I don’t think about hope.”
But Batoul tried to comfort her mother on a visit home on a recent afternoon. She may feel trapped by her fate, but Batoul had the strength or at least the kindness to try to see some hope for the future, saying, “I do have a lot of hope, hope in returning to Syria. There will be better days than these days. Even if there are problems, they will be better than the problems here.”
That sense of resiliency was not uncommon among many of the young people we interviewed in the ramshackle communities of tents that dot the landscape in the flat, fertile land of the Bekaa Valley where they are coming of age. Syrian children seemed to be everywhere here, working in tire repair shops and gas stations and sweeping the floors at local produce markets.
“Child labor is a phenomenon that has been increasing. These children should not be on the streets, they should be playing and they should be going to school. Sadly, it is not happening because they have to survive. When it comes to basic instincts for survival, you have to do what you have to do to survive and help your family,” said Mouamar.
At one World Vision youth center, part of a program known as a Child Friendly Space which offers a protective community and remedial schooling, the 13-year-old Mohammed stood out from a crowd of young boys. He puts long hours in at the metal shop, and talked about memories of his home in Syria: “I remember my friends and I miss my school. Syria is so beautiful. More beautiful than here.”
Mohammed carried himself with great confidence, as he recited the poem titled “To Our Country.” The poem, he explained, was written by Syrian sisters Rihan and Faia Younan and became a viral sensation on YouTube. As he has, many Syrian children have committed it to memory. And so he recited the words with great poise as the emotion quivered in his voice and seemed to echo through the uncertainty in his eyes when he finished reading.
“A war that sneaked through doors to settle down inside the home and humiliate their owners.
A war in which children and women were sold in slave markets.
A war that brought the nation’s mothers to tears, and exhausted its men.
A war that never knew its beginning. A war that dreams of an end.”
Editor’s Note: This article is part of The GroundTruth Project reporting fellowship on the humanitarian response to Syrian refugees. Work in the field by fellows Christopher Lee and Oscar Durand was made possible in part through a grant from World Vision, an international aid agency. This story was published by PBS NewsHour.